Sep 14, 2009

The promise I cannot make...

by May

From the time we got here in SG until now, all my free time goes to my kids. I have never thought of going out with friends and I feel guilty when Rommel and I leave the children at home while we do some errands. Yes, everytime I open the front door to leave the kids, I suffer from separation anxiety.

This afternoon, I felt sad when my daughter said "I love you, Mama. Sana palagi nalang tayo magkasama". I answered "pano pag nasa office si mama syempre matagal siya mawawala". She insisted "basta gusto ko sumama sayo kahit nasa office ka o kaya kahit saan". I feel guilty because I cannot promise such a thing. As much as I want to be with them 24/7, circumstances just won't allow that to happen. That is why I make it a point to spend quality time with them as much as I could. If the time comes that I won't be able to do it as often, I have already planted good memories to live by.

For mothers who think more of their career advancement, I suggest that you think hard. The higher you go the corporate ladder, the heavier your responsibilities become, and the lesser your time spent with your families.

Post script: Today, Zia and I had a Mcflurry date. When we came home, it was play time for Ziggy and me. Just about now, the front door opened...quality time with Rommel just started...

4 comments:

  1. This is touching. We should really make good memories with the lil ones. In 6 to 10 years, they will not even be joining us in McFlurry dates like these. :( Nanay na nanay ka na talaga May!

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  2. parenthood is a tough balancing act indeed. i've also gone through the same with my 3 boys. don't worry, it's not just the quantity of time you spend with them that's important. it's the quality of time (no matter how little) that you spend with them that counts. im sure zia and ziggy will relish these moments when they grow up. ;)

    hope to see the you all this christmas! :)

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  3. @kuya: i always try to be there for them. kahit walang laman ang bulsa, need to spend fun time with them. im still in the learning process. wisdom is taken from years of experience. I have just been a mother for 5 years so marami pa akong kakaining bigas para maging ulirang ina. haha

    @ate tata: speaking of years of experience of being a mother, nasa high school ka na, ako nasa pre school palang. pero syempre, continuous ang learning process kahit may mga sariling pamilya na sila, we have to admit we still learn a lot from them.

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  4. If only all mothers could stay home with their children, that would be ideal. But we need to make sure that we have the finances to give them a good education and tomorrow.

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